Week 2 Questions

Reawakening Your Marriage #2

Small Group Questions

1. If you were asked to pare down a husband’s biblical responsibility in a marriage relationship into one statement could you do it? What would it be?

Read Ephesians 5:25-30. The exhortation is repeated twice [Hint: v.25, 28].

2. Ladies, how would you describe the kind of love these verses command? What does it look like in real life application from your perspective? Guys, how does the concept of loving your wife as Christ loves the church play out for you?

Have you carefully thought through how you will actually do it?

3. What is Christlike love? How does He love the church?

- Describe it and support your views with as many scriptures as you can.

- Can you think of any real-life or personal examples of this that you are willing to share?

- What do you think stops men from exhibiting this kind of love to their wives?

4. Read 1 John 4:19. How could you apply this concept to your marriage?

5. How can a husband present his wife as a pure and spotless bride? Isn’t that something only Christ can do?

- Husbands, what are your responsibilities as the spiritual head of your home?

- Wives, is it difficult to let your husband do this? Why or why not?

6. How should a man protect and shield his wife from the corruption of the culture?

- Ladies, what kind of hedges would you like to see your husband construct around your marriage to keep it as pure and as free as possible from the temptations of the world, the flesh and the devil?

- Men, what are some that you have constructed? Is there anything you’re ignoring?

7. What do you think of Bill McCartney’s statement: “You can tell the depth of a man’s walk with God by looking at the countenance of his wife’s face.” Do you think it is a valid statement? When might it NOT be true?

8. “One of our greatest failings as husbands,” says Pat Morley, “has been our failure to nurture our wives.” Read Ephesians 5:28-29.

- What does it mean to love your wife AS your own body?

- What kind of things can men do to nurture their wives?

9. Read Rom. 8:31-39. We are secure because of the love God has for us in Christ. Husbands, apply this to your marriage.

- Do you think your wife feels secure in your marriage relationship?

- What can you do to more fully envelop her with a sense of security?

10. How is your relationship with Jesus? How is it affecting the security of your marriage?

Week 1 Questions from Russ

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Reawakening Your Marriage #1

Small Group Questions

1. In light of the fact that divorce rates run as high among Christians as they do among non-christians:

- Why do you think Christians aren’t better at handling the problems in our marriages?

- Why do you think there are just as many divorces occurring among Christian marriages as there are among non-Christians?

- What can we do about the very real struggles most of us encounter in marriages?

2. Read Song of Solomon 2:15. It’s not necessarily the big things that cause marriages to shrivel up and die. In fact, rather than the big things it is usually the little things that go unchecked, for long periods of time that devour a marriage. It’s the little foxes that are ruining the vineyards.

- Identify and list some of the “little foxes” you think contribute to the erosion of a good marriage relationship.

- What are you doing to catch and eliminate them?

3. What do think are some of the biblical essentials in order to reawaken our marriages? What do you do to keep your marriage fresh in order to avoid the fallout that rages all around us?

4. Read: Eph. 5:21-25, 28-29, 33; Col. 3:18-19; 1 Pet. 3:1-2, 7

- What are your first reactions to what these texts advocate?

- Are these texts relevant or out of touch with contemporary culture?

- As a husband what are your spiritual responsibilities to your wife?

- As a wife what are your spiritual responsibilities to your husband?

5. Read Matt. 7:24-27.

- Does this relate to a marriage?

- In what way?

6. In Malachi 2:14, marriage is called a “covenant.” Look up this word in a dictionary, and/or a Bible dictionary. In light of its definition draw some practical conclusions about what God has in mind for your marriage relationship?

7. Review these traditional marriage vows:

“I ____ take you _____ to be my wife / husband ... to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, so long as we both shall live ... according to God’s holy ordinance ... this pledge I make to you in good faith ...”

What do they mean to you?

What do you think they mean to God?

8. How has culture contributed to the demise of married life?

9. Read Rom. 12:1-2 and Eph. 4:17-24

How can we resist being squeezed into the cultural mold?

10. What do you think of the statement: “YOUR COMMITMENT TO THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR COMMITMENT TO YOUR MATE.”

Do you agree or disagree? Explain.

11. What is God’s ideal for marriage?

12. Is any marriage beyond God’s redemption?